Thursday, December 2, 2010

My "Give A Damn" is busted...

In a previous version of myself I had high standards for my upkeep.  I didn't feel human leaving the house in anything less than the best.  I had to put full make-up on, dress in an outfit that didn't make me look frumpy, even wear uncomfortable shoes so long as they looked cute.

Lately, that is so not the case.  It's as if my give-a-damn is broken.  I could care less. The effort required in simply showering and pulling my hair in a pony tail is enough.  I haven't had my hair cut in almost 8 months.  I rarely shower on the weekends much less do my hair or make-up unless I have somewhere to go or someone is coming over. I used to agonize over my outfit, trying desperately to cover my bumps and sags and find the most flattering clothes to wear to work.  Not anymore.  I looked in the mirror this morning, made sure everything was "covered" and "matched" and that I wasn't feeling self conscious in my choice of mindless pants and a sweater and I was good to go.   

In one regard it's somewhat freeing to not care.  I care too much about what people think most of the time so perhaps this is a refreshing change of pace.  However, I want better for my family.  I don't want my boys to look back on every single photo of their Mom from when they were kids and gasp in horror.  I don't want them to be embarrassed to have their frumpy, uncool Mom picking them up from a friend's house.  I want to be that Mom.  The cool one.  The one everyone talks about.  Or at the very least, I'd like to not be the one everyone talks about because I'm a mess.

I don't know how to fix my "give a damn".  I don't know how to find the time and energy and motivation to primp, doll up, heck, even put on lipgloss once in a while.  I don't want to be this tired, haggard, version of myself.  I want to be stylin', and qualify as "hot mama"...I just don't know how.


Shana said...

this is your husband speaking you are "stylin" and you are our "hot mama" -maybe your over used over critical give a damn is just how it should be

Sherry said...

HA! I second what your husband said (what a sweetheart!)!! Honestly, I'm right there with ya on the "not lookin' so hot lately" style. And as winter claws its way closer and closer I've become even MORE sloppy in my looks, so don't feel an ounce of guilt, we ALL do it! :) Besides, we are our OWN biggest enemy when it comes to self-esteem when in fact most people don't think twice about us (they're too busy thinking about themselves, just like WE are).

Stop worrying, Shana, and just try to enjoy the moment. I know you know what I mean. :) Your kids are going to look back on your photos regardless of how you looked and still wrinkle their noses (ha! seriously, they're gonna laugh at us!), BUT they will have oodles and oodles of fun, loving memories of those times with you.

Heidi said...

It is so cool to see you chime in here! I am on board with you. Shana you are fantastic the way you are, and if you choose to change it at some point, (say maybe with purple hair and really think black make up?) then you will be fantastic that way too!

We all want to be the "cool" mom. What we don't stop to consider is that just because she may look "cool", it doesn't mean she is a great mother! And YOU ARE a great mother!